THE WEDDING GUEST LIST

Guest List Challenges

Crafting a wedding guest list can be a daunting task, particularly if you're aiming for an intimate affair. It may get so difficult that you think, sod it, let’s just head to the Caribbean. No guests. With a multitude of individuals from various facets of your and your partner's lives, the selection process can be overwhelming. Factor in the likelihood of some invitees being unable to attend, and the concept of a secondary 'B' list becomes crucial.

Navigating the creation of a secondary guest list requires finesse, so here is a set of guidelines to assist you.

Do:

Commence Early: Begin drafting both your 'A' and 'B' lists as soon as possible. Set a deadline for family members to submit their guest suggestions. Finalising your 'A' list promptly allows for early RSVPs, preventing late invitations from your 'B' list.

Send Invitations in Advance: Aim to dispatch invitations 8 to 10 weeks before the wedding, particularly if you've formulated a secondary guest list. This extended timeframe minimises the risk of causing unintentional discomfort. Utilising digital RSVPs expedites the process. Alternatively, if you opt for printed RSVP cards, ensure that some batches feature later RSVP dates to accommodate the 'B' list recipients.

Maintain Confidentiality: Keep your guest list confidential until necessary. Revealing it prematurely may lead to awkward situations if word spreads inadvertently. Limit discussions about the guest list to your wedding planner, immediate family, and bridal party, ensuring they understand the existence of a 'B' list.

Sort Your 'B' List: Prioritise individuals on your 'B' list based on preference. Knowing whom you'd like to extend invitations to first from this list streamlines the process as declines from the 'A' list occur.

By adhering to these straightforward dos and don'ts, you can navigate the guest list intricacies smoothly as you plan your wedding.